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Spring 2017 Grading

Written by bryan. Posted in Grading

Karate grading in Basingstoke. Basingstoke children's Karate grading

Pleased to earn a new belt

The weekend of 25th March was the first of our quarterly gradings for 2017.

During the course of the weekend and the following week, Senior Examiners Bryan Andrews 6th Dan and Lindsey Andrews 4th Dan examined the following sessions

  • 4 – 6 years old
  • 6 – 9 years old
  • 10 – 14 years old
  • Adults Karate
  • Ladies Chinese Kickboxing
  • Combat Ju Jitsu
  • Judo

Congratulations to everyone who passed and earned their new belts. We never give belts away, they are always deserved. People often have to battle nerves, fear, sickness and themselves to pass. Gradings are a test and as such one has to earn the right to pass.

For all age groups, except 4 – 6 year old, all gradings are carried out at a special grading class held on a weekend outside the normal class times. Members are grouped according to age and ability to test with their peers. A beginners grading for 6 – 9 year olds would typically consist of a lesson to recap the key points to be covered during the grading itself, following on from that the children then are asked to come up in small groups to perform certain moves, drills or forms. As the children get more experienced and older, the lesson content decreases and they eventually end up testing for the whole two hours with increased expectations for demonstrating their skills and abilities. These gradings are very much a technical test of skills with pass or fail criteria and a minimum requirement for number of lessons and weeks between gradings.

6 - 9 year old children's martial arts class in Basingstoke earning new belts

6 – 9 year old passing their Orange and Gold belt – 9th Kyu

#thisgirlcan #everygirlmatters Martial Arts for girls and women in Basingstoke

The smile says it all. Deserving and proud.

Ladies only Kickboxing. Chinese Kickboxing in Basingstoke

Ladies Kickboxing – upfront and centre showing their moves

Ladies self defence in Basingstoke, Ladies Martial Arts club in Basingstoke #thisgirlcan

Successful Ladies Chinese Kickboxing grading

Ladies kickboxing padwork for fitness and self defence

Nice Kick to the pads

safe children's martial arts in basingstoke club

Children sparring during their grading

Karate and Kung Fu for Kids. Standup Martial Arts like Taewondo, Karate, Kung Fu and Kickboxing all teach the kinds of kicks and punches that these guys had to do for their grading in our Basingstoke Martial Arts club. Four Marks Martial Arts

6 – 9 year old Higher belts who passed their grading

 

Basingstoke Ju Jitsu success at Shin Gi Tai Martial Arts Academy

Learning a Martial Arts is a serious business

Children passing Karate grading for 4 - 6 years old

Little Dragons – 4 – 6 Years old passing their belts

Mid Judo grading – still time for a smile

Basingstoke classes for Adults CJJ, MMA, Combat Ju Jitsu and Mixed Martial Arts

Combat Ju Jitsu Grading for adults

BJA Judo club in Basingstoke, Level 2 coach and examiner

British Judo Association grading upto 11th Mon

Adults Martial Arts, beginners martial arts class, teenagers practicing a martial art in Basingstoke

Final grading – some youngsters and some not so young = 2.5 hours of extremely hot work.

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5 Tips for raising a confident child – Self Defence 101

Written by bryan. Posted in Self Defence, Uncategorized

As parents we have an ability and even a responsibility to help our children to become confident. Confidence will lead them on the path to success.

Confidence is the belief in one’s ability to master your body, behaviour and the challenges you encounter in school, work and life generally. If our children believe in themselves, they will are willing to take more of the right kind of risks in life, accomplish their goals and accomplish more. Children who have good self esteem will find it easier to feel valued and accepted by family, friends and peers, they will be proud of a job well done and will feel good and thing good things about themselves and they will be more prepared for the challenges that they will face everyday.

None of us are born confident, it’s something we learn as we grow up and develop, regardless of a child’s situation or feelings. As parents we can help to improve our children’s self-confidence by giving them many opportunities to practice and master their skills. Let them make mistakes and be there to boost their spirits so they keep trying, even if they sometimes fail.

Have you heard the old Japanese saying, fall down 7 times get up 8.

 

These are some ideas as to what we can do to increase our children’s sense of self-worth

Create a wall of fame

Every child is good at something. Help them to discover it, encourage it and celebrate it by displaying it proudly for all to see. If your home is missing a wall of fame to celebrate their achievement your child is missing their moment of recognition. If you have a child who is not into team sports or athletic, try scouting/guiding. Everyone wins and everyone gets lots of badges. As children walk by their showcase, they can see at a glance five to ten years of achievement. This gives them a lift, especially during times when their self-confidence is faltering.

Nurture their special interests

Try to expose your child to a wide variety of activities, and encourage them through the ups and downs when they find something they really love to do. Kids who have a passion — whether it’s Martial Arts, Theatre or Minecraft, justifiably feel proud of their expertise and skills and are more likely to be succeed in other things at both school and in life in general. Unusual hobbies may be particularly helpful for children who have a hard time mixing with other children at school.  Try and use this hobby to help your child to interact with other children and develop friendships. For example, if your child likes to draw but most of the children in their class are into sports, encourage them to do drawing of the sports that their peers enjoy.

Focus on the Glass being Half Full

Help your child to be more optimistic and to look for positives and to continue to work hard towards their goals. Try to avoid offering glib reassurances to “look on the bright side,” or something like “don’t worry you didn’t really want to do that.” Instead encourage them to think about specific ways to improve a situation and bring them closer to their goals. For example if they are behind their classes in reading at school, offer to spend extra time with them reading their school books together. If they weren’t invited to grade this time, ask what they need to practice to be invited to grade next time and then spend some time working on it together to increase their chances of getting the result they desire next time.

Don’t forget also that the glass can be refilled, time and time again.

Watch something motivational to put things into perspective. Nick Vujicic and his positivity is a great example of what we should all aim for.

 

Don’t over praise your child

Everyone of us likes to be praised, but reserve it for real accomplishments, not just used as a figure of speech. If you tell your child that everything they do is “great” or “awesome” or “fantastic” then when things do get a little (or even a lot) tougher, they can be discouraged at having to face adversity.

What’s the secret to success? Hard work and lots of times things not going right and then the occasional success. The cycle  repeats until the successes outweigh the failures. Then we move onto face the next challenge. Give old fashioned good honest praise when it is deserved and justified that way your child will feel good, they’ll learn to understand that hard work, spirit, effort, failures and achievement are all part of a natural cycle but one that they can conquer and receive just rewards.

Don’t give in to Fear

Sometimes we all get nervous or scared about doing something. It might be learning to drive, asking a potential partner out for a date, moving up a class in Martial Arts or starting a new job. Sometimes fear is a good thing and can help us to stay safe at other times fear can be a real limiter to our levels of success.

Fear shouldn’t be ignored, sometimes its a real valid and sensible response. Are you afraid of swimming in a rip tide at the beach, riding on a motorcycle with no protective wear, swimming in a pool with crocodiles in it, going to war, skydiving et al. There are many things to be justifiably afraid of, they are risky and often dangerous to life and limb.  Fear in this case is a matter of self preservation. In some of these examples, although fear is felt, the action must still be taken, for example a solider on the battlefield generally has little choice as to whether to engage with the enemy, they have to to ‘just get on with it.’

Some kinds of fear we have to learn to recognise as not being fear of a physical outcome, but something far worse, a fear of failure or even embarrassment.

Ralph Waldo Emerson summed it up quite nicely ” What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do.”

Take the following examples:- The child that doesn’t want to try that new activity at school or has passed a new Martial Arts belt and now has to work with a more advanced group of pupils or where they previously loved an activity and now now longer want to do it. This is what, as parents we play the part of Sherlock Holmes and start investigating a little deeper. Ask them what they do in their activity, ask them what they enjoy and what they don’t enjoy. Compare notes with the coach or teacher and see if you can identify the real underlying issue. Is their enough fun in the activity, are they still still motivated, are others progressing faster than them. Are social pressures intervening, are friends asking them to do other things? Are the games consoles calling? Is the activity getting harder to do because your child has progressed and now they are being asked to further improve their skills.

Sometimes all it takes is a little constructive support from a child’s parents to help them overcome their nerves and worries and to move forward with more confidence and to set themselves up for later life.

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